My Week In Happy: Searching for gratitude


The aftermath of the Santa Run at MediaCityUK.  
Note: I did not take part in the run, I just happened to be coming back from the gym at the time.

It’s been tough losing my beloved feline friend Cosmo. He was with me for far longer than any romantic relationship I’ve ever had, by my side for 15 years. Although his passing was anticipated, knowing it was coming hasn’t eased the pain – other than my ability to stop his pain.

So in these dark times, it is more important than ever for me to dig deep and turn up those things that bring me joy and for which I am grateful.

 Life is short

Earlier this year, a good friend of my lost his mother who was in her eighties. She was an amazing woman who raised four children, started university at the age of 52, qualified as a social worker and started a career aged 56, and became a gay rights campaigner in her fifties.

This started me thinking about my relationships with my family and other people that I felt I needed to do more to keep in touch with. What I did as a result of this:

  • Celebrated my dad’s birthday with my brother for the first time in over 30 years.
  • Made contact with a school friend I’d lost touch with and connected on Facebook.
  • Met another school friend who I hadn’t seen for 20 years – it was magical.

Moving round a lot and having a busy job are no longer good enough reasons for not staying in touch.

This is all rather more sombre than my usual updates, I am still doing good things (seeing Half Man Half Biscuit, laughing at Bridget Christie and pitching new content ideas), so please bear with me.

My Week In Happy: Farewell Cosmo

Cosmo - 1999 - 2014

Cosmo: 1999 – 2014

As alluded to in recent entries, Cosmo – my cat companion for over fifteen years – had been somewhat under the weather.

Sadly, last Thursday I had to make the difficult decision to have him put to sleep, but I was well supported by a wonderfully empathetic vet.

He had enjoyed a long and happy life and I wanted him to have as comfortable an ending to it as possible.

It has been a sad time for me, but I want to focus on the happiness and comfort Cosmo brought me over the years. It has to be said that he left me in much better shape than he found me.

My Week In Happy: Mostly staying in


If you’ve read My Week In Happy before, you’re probably used to hearing about a whirl of social events, but this week has been a little bit different.

Memento Moriatas

I did drop in to Helen Malarky’s fabulous Memento Moriatas soirée (part of MMU’s Gothic Manchester Festival) on Friday. It was my first visit to the The International Anthony Burgess Foundation – the perfect backdrop for the dark entertainment to come.

Memento Moriatas at The International Anthony Burgess Foundation

Memento Moriatas at The International Anthony Burgess Foundation

Kate Mayfield, read beautifully from her memoir ‘The Undertaker’s Daughter‘. She recounted how growing up in the home of her mortician father in 1960s Kentucky shaped her life . We lapped up Kate’s words and she very kindly thanked us for coming on Twitter.

Mostly staying in

Besides a visit to London for work this week, I’m also out every night from Thursday to Sunday night at a few different events – some related to the Manchester Science Festival.

So the weekend was very wholesome. Working out at the gym (even managed circuits on Sunday), cooking a delicious roast dinner and getting up to date with chores. Just the usual maintenance stuff.

Except, I currently have a very poorly cat. Cosmo is 16 (102 in cat years) and he’s been with me since he was seven months old. He a lovely big bundle of furry love. Cosmo’s been there for me through thick and thin – lived in three different cities with me in many different homes with different people, but I know he always loves me the best.

Cosmo is envious of my laptop and likes come between us.

Cosmo is envious of my laptop and likes come between us.

Since the beginning of the year he lost weight, it was very hard to notice because he is just so furry. But in the last month the weight loss has been drastic and I needed to spend some time with him to persuade him to eat.

Right now, I am away for work, and Cosmo has gone to stay at the vets where they have promised they will try sardines, chicken and tuna to try and get him eating again. So, digits crossed.